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Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner: What to Do When People Assume They’re Invited to Your Wedding

Monday, September 26, 2011

Not to get all "hey look at me" but today's question from a bride really hits home and I'm sure it will with all of you too. One thing you learn when you are planning your wedding is that a lot of the stress is stemmed from your guests and family. It was in my case at least. Suddenly people are inviting other people you don't even know, or taking complete liberties with what is supposed to be your special day and it's a harsh lesson in not being able to please everybody. If any of you are experiencing this now, we hope that the responses from our industry professionals will help you along too. Nashville Bride's Question:

My fiance and I want an small, intimate wedding. We weren't planning on giving everyone a plus one. Yet already, people are stating that they are bringing this person or that person. People we don't even know. [My groom] and I really want our wedding to just be shared with the people we are close with. Plus the invitations aren't even out and people are assuming that they have a plus one. What should we do?


Expert Advice from Sarah Willard, Wedding Planner (Music City Events)

This is unfortunately a common thread with many of today's brides. The best way to approach this, with grace, is to explain the situation to people as they mention bringing this or that person and to instruct your parents to do the same. "Josh and I really desire a very private wedding and have decided to keep the guest list small." If your choice is based partly on budget or venue space ("Our budget is tight" or "The church/venue only holds a small amount of guests"), you can add that in, but otherwise don't try to explain it away or act like its a big deal. Just use a very casual, normal tone. More often than not people will respond in the same tones you use. Having said that, etiquette dictates that you invite both spouses in a marriage and the significant other if a guest is engaged. Best of luck! These can be tricky things to navigate!

Good luck with your planning, hopefully this advice gives you much needed stress relief knowing that you're not alone and that there are solutions to the problem! If you have any questions you'd like answered, please consider hiring a Nashville wedding planner to handle your wedding from AZ or contact us and we'll help you as best we can!


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